Being thin. Probably not a subject that you ever expected to read about on this website, but my recent trip to London got me thinking…
It started in the car on the way to Leavesden film studios. I whiled away part of the journey reading a magazine that featured several glossy photographs of a very young woman who is either seriously ill or suffering from an eating disorder (which is, of course, the same thing); anyway, there is no other explanation for the shape of her body. She can talk about eating absolutely loads, being terribly busy and having the world’s fastest metabolism until her tongue drops off (hooray! Another couple of ounces gone!), but her concave stomach, protruding ribs and stick-like arms tell a different story. This girl needs help, but, the world being what it is, they’re sticking her on magazine covers instead. All this passed through my mind as I read the interview, then I threw the horrible thing aside.
But blow me down if the subject of girls and thinness didn’t crop up shortly after I got out of the car. I was talking to one of the actors and, somehow or other, we got onto the subject of a girl he knows (not any of the Potter actresses – somebody from his life beyond the films) who had been dubbed ‘fat’ by certain charming classmates. (Could they possibly be jealous that she knows the boy in question? Surely not!)
‘But,’ said the actor, in honest perplexity, ‘she is really not fat.’
‘“Fat” is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her,’ I said; I could remember it happening when I was at school, and witnessing it among the teenagers I used to teach. Nevertheless, I could see that to him, a well-adjusted male, it was utterly bizarre behaviour, like yelling ‘thicko!’ at Stephen Hawking.
His bemusement at this everyday feature of female existence reminded me how strange and sick the ‘fat’ insult is. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I’m not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain…
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn’t seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? ‘You’ve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!’
‘Well,’ I said, slightly nonplussed, ‘the last time you saw me I’d just had a baby.’
What I felt like saying was, ‘I’ve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren’t either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?’ But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
So the issue of size and women was (ha, ha) weighing on my mind as I flew home to Edinburgh the next day. Once up in the air, I opened a newspaper and my eyes fell, immediately, on an article about the pop star Pink.
Her latest single, ‘Stupid Girls’, is the antidote-anthem for everything I had been thinking about women and thinness. ‘Stupid Girls’ satirises the talking toothpicks held up to girls as role models: those celebrities whose greatest achievement is un-chipped nail polish, whose only aspiration seems to be getting photographed in a different outfit nine times a day, whose only function in the world appears to be supporting the trade in overpriced handbags and rat-sized dogs.
Maybe all this seems funny, or trivial, but it’s really not. It’s about what girls want to be, what they’re told they should be, and how they feel about who they are. I’ve got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don’t want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking Chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons. Let them never be Stupid Girls. Rant over.
14119.) My best friend pretended to be a boy online and tricked me into falling in love with "him"...it's been almost four years and I just now found out about it. She still doesn't know that I know. I don't know how to tell her.
97% of teens would cry if they saw Robert Pattison (Edward Cullen from Twilight) standing on top of a sky scraper, about to jump. If you're one of the 3% who would sit there eating popcorn screaming "DO A FLIP!" then reblog this :)
i’m tired of being too big for the clothes i want to wear. i’m tired of having to leave the button undone on all my jeans. i’m tired of people telling me i’m skinny when i’m not. why can’t i just be tiny and cute like my mom and sister? what the fuck happened to me?
this has been a yearly tradition since 2006, and i’m bringing it over to tumblr this year :) most of the personal explanations for some of these are on my xanga, which most of you probably know, but here’s the fun stuff.
top 5 things that defined me this decade 1. harry potter 2. my choice of college 3. fandom 4. my insecurity 5. american idol
top 5 movies 1. avatar 2. the hangover 3. the blind side 4. 2012 5. sherlock holmes HM: star trek, 17 again, the stoning of soraya m, up, the imaginarium of dr parnassus
top 5 songs 1. lady gaga - bad romance 2. glee cast - don’t stop believing 3. taylor swift - you belong with me 4. lady gaga - speechless 5. jordin sparks - battlefield HM: adam lambert - music again, the fray - you found me, kelly clarkson - my life would suck without you, miley cyrus - the climb, beyonce - if i were a boy
top 5 albums 1. lady gaga - the fame monster 2. adam lambert - for your entertainment 3. glee music albums 4. kelly clarkson - all i ever wanted 5. taylor swift - fearless platinum edition HM: allison iraheta - just like you, daughtry - leave this town, demi lovato - here we go again
top 5 celeb crushes 1. adam lambert 2. kevin mchale 3. bradley james 4. taylor lautner 5. lady gaga HM: lucas till, zac efron, ed westwick
top 5 tv shows 1. glee 2. american idol season 8 3. merlin 4. so you think you can dance season 5 5. house HM: gossip girl, hell’s kitchen
top 5 fics 1. accidental memory in the case of death by derryere 2. trajectories by anon 3. the crown of the summer court by astolat 4. savage by anon 5. fame and fortune by melusinahp HM: so are they all, all honourable men by seperis, draco malfoy’s travelling theatre of the strange and spectacular by anon, quickening days by mercurial wit, laws of attraction by christycorr, best intentions aside by derryere
top 5 biggest news headlines 1. all the stars we lost — michael jackson, patrick swayze, DJ AM, farah fawcett, brittany murphy, etc. 2. iran election 3. adam lambert’s gay 4. swine flu 5. kanyegate HM: balloon boy, paula leaving idol, tiger woods, the battle over gay marriage, obama’s nobel peace prize, susan boyle
top 5 memories 1. epic AI finale week 2. second AI concert 3. glee signing 4. AMAs 5. meeting chungsol HM: HBP midnight premiere, american idol auditions, last quarter of the UCLA game, weekender, SYTYCD5 finale taping
top 5 obsessions (excluding HP, AI/SYTYCD, and the aforementioned celebrity crushes) 1. twitter 2. AI fandom 3. glee 4. yelping 5. work/internships HM: merlin, lady gaga’s music, celebrity stalking
top 5 things i’m looking forward to next year 1. london! 2. glee season 2 3. exploring LA more 4. DH (kind of… it’s complicated) 5. SC football 2010 HM: the oscars, merlin season 3
and now for my resolutions, starting with last year’s:
2009 NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS (8/16) - finish SKOM. no, really. (i’m totally not gonna do it) —- WILL NEVER BE DONE - stay away from fests —- DONE - cut back on facebook but keep posting regularly in my xanga —- NOT DONE - do something useful this summer if i don’t get into ICS; if i do, enjoy it!!! —- DONE - work out regularly, i.e. at least three times a week (when i have access to a gym) —- DEFINITELY NOT DONE - EITHER attend a taping of american idol OR try out for american idol —- DONE - meet at least one more online friend (hopefully chungsol or sillyslut if they transfer!!) —- DONE - umm… i’m gonna have to be one of the losers who makes “get a boyfriend” one of her new year’s resolutions :( I HATE MYSELF. —- NOT DONE - get a job. i no longer have any excuses, since i finally have my SSN. —- DONE - go to a gay and/or lesbian club! —- NOT DONE - put effort into one of my screenplays and be proud of the final product… either that, or actually write out the mark smeaton feature outline —- HALF DONE - get involved with at least one more on-campus organisation, preferably an annenberg one —- DONE - get through all of these articles —- NOT DONE - keep writing. i know, i want to give this up, but… i can’t. i need to find it in myself to keep trying. —- NOT DONE - stay in touch with my old MN friends, namely steph, amy, and jaymz —- DONE - be a better listener… i want to be a good friend, and listening is the place to start :) —- HALF DONE
2010 NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS - lose weight (it’s not gonna happen) - have an amazing time in london - get another piercing or a tattoo - land at least two internships - write a merlin fic - go to a gay/lesbian bar. seriously, i have no excuses once i turn 21. - don’t forget harry potter :( - start putting effort into school again - start my job search early. i can’t afford to fuck that up. - cross off at least 10 more items on my list of 101 goals - move all my bookmarks to delicious - get a boyfriend? yes? no? idgaf anymore
GLEE creator Ryan Murphy has revealed to Billboard.com that the next installment of GLEE, beginning April 13, 2010 on Fox at 9pm, will feature a whole episode of original music.
Says Murphy:”I’ve had a lot of calls from songwriters, to the point where it’s kind of embarrassing and ridiculous,” he says. “So we’re writing an episode called ‘Original Song’ where the teacher asks the kids to write their own piece of music. Diane Warren is going to do two big ballads, and if it works, we’ll see what happens … but we won’t do it all the time.”
One writer who may be contributing to the episode is Ryan Tedder of the band OneRepublic, who co-wrote the song Halo with Beyoncé that appeared on GLEE as part of a mash up with Walking on Sunshine. Tedder tells Idolator.com:
“Glee is actually my new addiction. I download every episode. They actually just approached me. Adam Anders, the guy who does all the music, approached me about two weeks ago to do original music for the next season. So I’m gonna be doing at least one song for the next season that’s original.”
TV’s hottest and most talked-about new series when GLEE Season 1: Road To Sectionals debuted on DVD yesterday, December 29 from Twentieth Century Fox Home Entertainment. In GLEE, William McKinley High School once had a champion glee club, but now they are floundering. That is when an idealistic Spanish teacher (Matthew Morrison, Music & Lyrics) takes up their cause, vowing to transform the rag-tag group of singers and dancers into champions.
From Ryan Murphy, the creator of “Nip/Tuck,” “Glee” also stars Jane Lynch (The 40 Year Old Virgin), Jessalyn Gilsig (“Nip/Tuck”) and a slew of talented newcomers including Lea Michele, Cory Monteith and Chris Colfer. Featuring the first 13 episodes, GLEE Season 1: Road To Sectionals DVD also includes the Director’s cut of the pilot episode; exclusive behind-the-scenes featurettes; audition videos from the talented cast and the hit music topping the charts at iTunes such as cast versions of Queen’s “Somebody To Love,” Heart’s “Alone,” Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believin’,” Céline Dion’s “Taking Chances,” Rihanna’s “Take A Bow,” Carrie Underwood’s “Last Name,” Jazmine Sullivan’s “Bust Your Windows,” Kanye West’s “Gold Digger” and REO Speedwagon’s “Can’t Fight This Feeling.”. The Disc sells for $39.98 U.S/$49.98 Canada. source.
13911.) I'm 16 years old and I've never had a real boyfriend or a real kiss. All of my friends have boyfriends and go out on triple and/or double dates every weekend. I can't understand their excitement. I'm stuck at home by myself. I've never felt more lonely. What is wrong with me?
listen up, all you misunderstood teenagers. here’s a secret no one bothers to tell you: there is nothing wrong with being single. you may feel like having your first kiss or losing your virginity is the most important thing in the world, but it’s not. school is important. friends are important. your future is important. having guys hanging all over you is not a measure of self-worth. and yeah, you may think no one ~understands how you feel, but trust me, i do. i’m 20 and i still haven’t had a boyfriend, but you know what? fuck the people who think nabbing a cute boy means they’re suddenly desirable or popular or whatever stupid social quality they so desire. they’re wrong.
i know referencing a taylor swift song is probably counter-productive here, but anyone who feels the same way as this secret maker needs to listen to “fifteen.” if your life, you’ll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team. <— this is true. there are more important things at stake than your love life. it’s probably difficult for you to see past your own problems and grasp that right now, but in time you’ll come to realise it.